When someone suggested to me in an email that they feel like a magnet attracting bullies at work, it got me thinking about ones role in being “a victim”.
All interactions between people are co-created – including the relationship between the bully and their victims. So, how much of a person’s behaviour in the workplace is likely to expose them to being bullied? Can a person turn themselves into a victim purely by the way they behave?
Employers and senior managers may recognise the behavioural patterns of abrasive managers and bullies in the workplace, but are they as equally tuned into the patterns of the victims? Perhaps this could be a learning process that will support staff teams and may prevent the bullying from happening in the first place.
I wonder, what do you think?